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Is God treating the man unfairly? No, he is not. It simply the role that God has chosen for the man. The man is to be a head to the woman as a protection and for safety. In the natural this protection and safety is from intruders, robbers, other men and enemies. In the spiritual the protection and safety is from deceivers, blasphemers, those who would teach error and all others that oppose the ways of Jesus. This is a role God has equipped men to be able to fulfill.
Likewise, he has given women a role, which they are equipped to fulfill. In Gen 2:18-25 we read the following account:
18 Then the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." 19 So out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,
"This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man."
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. ESV
This is the story of when Eve was created. Within the story we see that the woman was created because God did not want man to be alone and because God wanted man to have someone to help him in the things God would have man to do upon the earth.
The oddity about this narrative is that first God made all the animals, birds and every type of creature before he brought forth the woman. Then before he fashioned the woman God paraded his creations before Adam who named all the creatures and yet there was not a helper found for Adam. Why did God do this? It would seem that God knew full well that he was going to bring forth the woman?
It would seem that God wanted Adam to realize that though there were all these things that God created out of the dust of the earth there was none that was able to help him in the ways he would need help. He was still alone. He still needed “someone” to help him. So, God then put Adam to sleep and took part of the man and fashioned the woman out of this portion.
When Adam saw her he was pleased and proclaimed that this was one that was part of him and came out of him. Then he gave her a name and called her woman for she came out of man. We see a little later that Adam gave his wife a proper name calling her Eve, because she was the mother of all living (Gen. 3:20). Adam now had a helper fit for him.
After the fall of Adam and Eve we see God’s proclamation of judgment for the their sin in Genesis 3:16-19:
To the woman he said,
"I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you."
And to Adam he said,
"Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, 'You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return." ESV
Within the judgments we can also see the roles God has designed for both the man and the woman. For the woman we can see that her role was to help in the multiplication of mankind, she was to bear children. Her judgment was that it would now be more difficult for her in childbirth and though it would be more difficult she would still have a desire for her husband to have children through her.
For Adam we see that God was disappointed that he abdicated his responsibility of headship by listening to his wife and eating of the fruit God commanded him not to eat. It was Adam’s responsibility to inform his wife and give her guidance when she was somehow misguided. Rather he listened to his wife entreaty knowing full well it was wrong. As a result God cursed the ground to bring forth weeds so that man’s task in bringing forth food would be quite challenging to the point of sweat and sorrow. Furthermore, man (thus mankind) had to die and return to dust not being able to eat of the “tree of life”.
Adam bore the brunt of the judgment and the responsibility of the sin. Eve being deceived received a lesser judgment. This is a scriptural principal that can be seen in Luke chapter 12. Though Jesus is speaking of the end of the age and how judgment will be handed out, it is indicative of the way God acts toward us:
Luke 12:47-48 Now, that slave who knew the will of his master and did not make the necessary preparations or do his will, will be beaten with many stripes. But he that did not know, and did things worthy of blows, will be beaten with few stripes, for to everyone to whom much was given, much shall be required from him, and to whom much was entrusted, more they will ask.
Adam received “many stripes” in that his judgment was more severe yet Adam still retained the responsibility of headship for Eve. Eve received “few stripes” in that her judgment wasn’t as severe and yet Eve retained the responsibility of helper to Adam.
Thus Adam is the head and Eve is the helper, likewise Jesus is the head and the church is his helper. As Adam took upon himself the sin of his wife, so Jesus took upon himself the sin the church. As Adam laid down his life in sweat and sorrow to bring forth food for his wife and family, so Jesus laid down his life in sweat and sorrow that his church might partake of the bread of life.
As Eve helped Adam in bringing forth children and helping raise them, so the church helps Jesus bring forth spiritual children and helps raise them to maturity. As Eve helped Adam in various tasks to help accomplish the mission God gave him, so the church helps Jesus accomplish the mission God gave him.
The principal remains, first the natural and then the spiritual.
Now we come to the part where contention usually arises (if it hasn’t already) and that is the scripture verses in Ephesians 5:21-33.
...to be continued