The first two parts may be found at the links below.
What is being shown to us here? It seems that God determined a role for man that he did not intend for the woman. God did not want women to go to war. He chose men, not boys, not women or girls but men. Men were to fight the enemy, go to battle, carry the sword, and bear the hardship of days without sleep or food in order to obtain victory for their families and nation. They were to protect the families and nation.
Not only were men to provide physical protection as in war but also for spiritual protection, first the natural than the spiritual. In Numbers 30 we find a chapter that deals with making vows before God. This chapter is 16 verses long. The first 2 verses speak of a man making a vow and keeping his vow:
Num 30:1-2 Moses told the leaders of the Israelite tribes, "This is what the LORD has commanded: 2 When a man makes a vow to the LORD or swears an oath to put himself under an obligation, he must not break his word; he must do whatever he has promised.
This is the portion to man. He must keep his vow. The next 14 verses pertain to women and vows. Please notice the exceptions as to how and why a woman’s vow may be consider void.
3 "When a woman in her father's house during her youth makes a vow to the LORD or puts herself under an obligation, 4 and her father hears about her vow or the obligation she put herself under, and he says nothing to her, all her vows and every obligation she put herself under are binding. 5 But if her father prohibits her on the day he hears about it, none of her vows and none of the obligations she put herself under are binding. The LORD will absolve her because her father has prohibited her.
6 "If a woman marries while her vows or the rash commitment she herself made are binding, 7 and her husband hears about it and says nothing to her when he finds out, her vows are binding, and the obligations she put herself under are binding. 8 But if her husband prohibits her when he hears about it, he will cancel her vow that is binding or the rash commitment she herself made, and the LORD will forgive her.
9 "Any vow a widow or divorcée put herself under is binding on her.
10 "If a woman in her husband's house has made a vow or put herself under an obligation with an oath, 11 and her husband hears about it, says nothing to her, and does not prohibit her, all her vows are binding, and every obligation she put herself under is binding. 12 But if her husband cancels them on the day he hears about it, nothing that came from her lips, whether her vows or her obligation, is binding. Her husband has canceled them, and the LORD will absolve her. 13 Her husband may confirm or cancel any vow or any sworn obligation to deny herself. 14 If her husband says nothing at all to her from day to day, he confirms all her vows and obligations, which are binding. He has confirmed them because he said nothing to her when he heard about them. 15 But if he cancels them after he hears about them, he will be responsible for her commitment." 16 These are the statutes that the LORD commanded Moses concerning the relationship between a man and his wife, or between a father and his daughter in his house during her youth.
We see that the father or husband can protect the daughter or wife from a vow that may not be good for her to vow. The father or the husband for the benefit and safety of the daughter or wife can nullify a “rash commitment”. Furthermore, if he nullifies a vow he becomes responsible before the Lord for that vow, if indeed it was a valid vow and not a "rash commitment". This is spiritual protection and responsibility. Such leeway is not given to the man.
In 1 Samuel 1:8-28 we see the story of Elkanah and Hannah. Hannah vowed a vow unto the Lord that if the Lord gave her a son she would give him back to the Lord all the days of his life and no razor would come upon her son’s head. Elkanah could have nullified her vow, but he didn’t because he saw the value in it and allowed her vow to be fulfilled unto the Lord. As her head, her spiritual protection he was obligated before the Lord to make sure her vow was one that was good for her spiritually and that it was fulfilled (see v23).
Likewise in Judges 4 & 5 we see a woman named Deborah who was the wife of Lapidoth. She was a judge in Israel. Now a time came when Barak, a warrior in Israel, asked her to go with him as he went to fight Jabin’s army. She said she would go. Now consider, did her husband have the obligation to consider what his wife promised and could he have said no?
The man is physically stronger to help protect his family and nation, first the natural than the spiritual. Likewise in the spiritual the man is given the obligation to watch over his wife and family.
In 1 Peter 3:7 we read the following words:
7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. ESV
Here we see that a man’s prayers will be hindered or unanswered if he does not live in an honorable way towards his wife. Why? It is because she is weaker and God watches out for the weak. Do we ever see in scriptures where a woman’s prayers can be hindered? Do we ever see in scriptures where someone can nullify a man’s vow? Neither one can be found.
Is God treating the man unfairly?
....to be continued.