Barry,
What a great explanation!  To go a little further, we can look at the Sabbath.  The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.  The Sabbath itself is a gift.  If you consider the spiritual side of what the Jews do at the Sabbath dinner, it is a good lesson in how the law can teach grace.

Two candles are lit before sundown. These candles represent the two part of the commandment: remember (the sabbath) and keep (the sabbath) holy. I like to consider that they represent the fact that Jesus is the light of the world and He will come twice.

Then there is the blessing of your children - as the Sabbath dinner is a family time and eaten as though it were a holiday. (we actually started having the Sabbath dinner on Friday nights and  use our finest china, dress up and have fun. It is a family night for all of  us)

Then you bless the bread (we make challah bread), pass the loaf around and each person breaks off (because there are no smooth edges in life) a piece.  Then we bless the wine and give everyone a small amount. Do you recognize this yet?  It is communion! We celebrate communion then we sit down and enjoy a festive meal together and at the end (so no one is allowed to leave the table til the meal is finished) we give thanks for the meal.

What we don't do, is follow all of the rules about not working or not blowing out the candles etc.

Satan always comes along and takes what God has given us to enjoy and tries to hide how wonderful it is in a series of rules that no one can keep, and they just end up confusing people. Grace is relationship  that comes once your heart is ready.  The law brings pride. It causes us to judge incorrectly (not correctly dividing the Word) and to compare. Grace is living in companionship with your creator. 

Most of the pastors in churches who have gone to seminary have been taught a Calvinist/reformation point of view. It is my opinion that the church of Sardis is the group that best defines Calvinism/the reformation as it has been manifested in the US...it is specifically this that has led to the church of Laodecia. So few people actually realize there is a problem that they don't think that they need a solution.

I have taken to listening to pastors (like Joseph Prince) that don't have a seminary background for just that reason. 

On a side note, I thought it interesting that when Joseph Prince came to the US he chose Joel Osteen's church. Osteen charges admission but has arguably the largest congregation in the US...what better place to start with the message of grace than a place filled with people who are mostly lost? His message was one of salvation.

Your sister in Christ,
~Jill