Hello, John and Doves,
Why hasn't The Wedding taken place yet?
Consider
that this is a proper Jewish wedding, and a Jew’s Jew like Yeshua would
know the 3 questions you ask yourself before choosing a mate:
IF YOU CAN'T ANSWER YES TO THESE 3 QUESTIONS, DON'T MARRY THE PERSON YOU'RE DATING
1. Do I respect this person enough that I want to be more like him/her?
Respect
is crucial in any relationship, particularly marriage. The litmus test
for respect is determining if you want to emulate this person. What
qualities do you respect in this person? Would you be happy if your child turns out like him/her?
2. If his/her personality and habits stay exactly as they are today, will I be happy 20, 30, 40 years down the road?
Never marry potential.
If you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't
get married. Don't expect to change another person. You'll be frustrated
and they'll be resentful. Can you accept this person exactly as they
are, for the rest of your life?
3. Do we share common life goals and priorities?
Sure,
chemistry and common interests are important. However, make sure you
share the deeper level of connection that comes through sharing life
goals. To avoid growing
apart after marriage, figure out what you're living for while you're
single and then find someone who independently came to the same
conclusion as you.
A
soul mate is really a goal mate - two people who ultimately share the
same understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same
priorities, values and goals.
The majority of marriages today end in divorce. Those who answer "yes"
to each of these 3 questions have a good chance in succeeding to build a
happy marriage. Those who cannot answer "yes" to all 3 questions are
likely entering a marriage that will leave them disappointed, unhappy
and single again.
[From: http://www.aish.com/tp/ss/ssw/48907602.html]
It is written,
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him,
he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
John 15:5 ESV
Again, it is written,
25Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,26that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,27so
that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot
or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without
blemish.
Once more [with feeling],
A Call to Persevere
17But you must remember, beloved, the predictions of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ.18They said to you, “In the last time there will be scoffers, following their own ungodly passions.”19It is these who cause divisions, worldly people, devoid of the Spirit.20But you, beloved, building yourselves up in your most holy faith and praying in the Holy Spirit,21keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life.22And have mercy on those who doubt;23save others by snatching them out of the fire; to others show mercy with fear, hating even the garment stained by the flesh.
Doxology
24Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy,25to
the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory,
majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever.
Amen.
Jude 17-25 ESV
Praying in the Holy Spirit:
26Likewise
the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray
for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings
too deep for words.27And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.
Romans 8:26-27 ESV
~Blessings,
Mike