http://www.fivedoves.com/letters/dec2012/danny1221.htm
 
Thank you for you gracious letter, you show a lot more maturity then I in your response
Yes we all have difficulty saying what we want, some more then others
But God knows what we mean, so that is most important
And the biggest deal is forgiveness that God confronts us with
And we can't fake God out by pretending we do, if you know what I mean.
I got clobbered by that pretty good
In fact God is doing a lot of humbling of my rough edges lately
Probably doing that to a lot of us right now
God does want to heal us of our past hurts and free us from them too
I guess he wants us to die to the control we have in our life to hold grudges and pain
That would mean also to let go of all hurts others have put against us, and own them no more.
Seems to me that is the only way to get healed and be free
I think that  is the kind of love we need.