Charles,
    You had written, "I believe Calvin and Arminius both have some truth."
That is an amazing thought!!!
The more I think about that statement, the more that I agree with it.
T: The LORD is the author and finisher, yet we have the capacity to desire to be saved.
U: From the perspective of eternity, the LORD unconditionally elects us; yet from the perspective of time, we make a freewill choice.
L: From eternity's perspective, there is only a set number saved, which number is known looking back over time from, say the new Jerusalem; yet, from the perspective of time, it is open ended to "whosoever will"
I: From eternity's perspective, the LORD works out all things according to his will; yet from the perspective of time, we can resist the conviction of the Holy Ghost:
P: From eternity's perspective, the LORD keeps us and seals us because if the infinite and eternal efficacy of the blood if Jesus; yet, what did Demas do?
         By the way, do you know how Kenneth is doing (the Kenneth that used to co-host the Tribulation-Now program)?
         The LORD bless you