Nicole,  Just some scriptures for you to look at in reference to your posting.
 
 
Mt. 8:12, Mt. 22:13, Mt 25:30.  Notice the term "outer darkness" in reference to the Kingdom of Heaven.  In the first reference it is the children that are cast out, doesn't sound like "suffer the little children to come unto me does it.  That is because it is speaking of those religious leaders that should have been ready to accept the Kingdom when Christ was in there midst, but because they did not progress past - looking for their savior to accepting him...they were children in their faith.  It also speaks to those today, who never pass the childhood stages of faith because of heart issues.  Next verse speaks of the Kingdom of Heaven being like a certain king, making a marriage for his son.  Someone shows up without the proper attire on.  Those that are welcome at the feast are those not only clothed by Christs righteousness, but by their righteous acts - those acts the Spirit had done through them during their life here on this earth.  Without both sets of clothes, verse 12 and 13 happen.  Matt. 25 is the kingdom of heaven being left in the hands of his servants while the man travels to another land - sounds like Christ leaving this earth and putting his ministry into his followers hands?.  The unprofitable servant- the one who doesn't do the work that was entrusted to him, found himself put out.    These verses sound stragely like a verson of purgatory dont they?