http://www.fivedoves.com/letters/march2012/coulbyd331.htm
 
Good letter, I am glad I read it.
Here is part of it
 
 
6:14 speaks of forgiveness, which is very important - you must forgive everybody that has committed a wrong against you - ever. I have done this personally, but let me give you an example. Back in 2003 and 2004 I worked for the family business. My dad is the owner of a real estate company and 2003 and 2004 were BOOM years in real estate. I mean we couldn't raise the prices of homes fast enough. Everything was selling. But not for me. I was not a very good salesperson. And one day I was sitting at the computer and my dad told me in a most hateful way, "You COST me money!" I can still remember it to this day. It is probably the meanest thing anybody has ever said to me, aside from some of the comments I get on my Youtube channel! Things like that do damage to you. And anytime anybody says or does something mean like that you need to dwell on what happened and release that hurt and say in your heart, "I forgive that person." And that hurt will be lifted away and it will be like a weight lifted from your shoulders, almost like taking a heavy pack off your back. When you have unforgiveness in your heart. you have a weight on your shoulders whether you realize it or not. And, in order for you to move forward, you need to let that go. Unforgiveness toward a person creates resentment and bitterness against that person and you will not be free until you let that go.
Jesus says you need to forgive others of their trespasses toward you or He will not forgive you of your trespasses. You need to dwell on it and release it and get rid of the unforgiveness.