Wendy
(13 Apr 2011)
"Reply to Linda Arn"
Hello Linda and Doves,
I too am beset with various problems, including marriage and
family. It is all so overwhelming isn't it? After almost 18
years of marriage my husband decides he wants to be single. He
has not left yet and we have not made official plans to divorce or
anything and he says he loves me with all of his heart (huh????????),
but I have to live with this knowledge that he is staying in the
marriage so as not to hurt me. Basically, he is willing to stay
because he knows that I would be devastated, but in his heart he does
not want to be married. There is also the intimacy issue (or lack
thereof)....I am at a loss. I find myself fuming inside most days
and I do not know how to react? I am not sure what God would have
me do. Do I stay and pray and trust God to turn things around, or
do I give my husband peace of mind and set him free? I know what
the Bible teaches about divorce, but the pain I feel daily is at times
too much to bear. I am 39 years old, no children and do not have
any time of intimacy with my husband for months at a time. This
feeling of rejection and sorrow most days causes me to behave in a
non-Christ-like manner and with His return being so close, I despair
because of this.
I would appreciate any advice from any Dove - I could really use some right about now.
If anyone would like to contact me, I can be reached at my personal email address at: wendy_ledo@yahoo.ca
Thanks for listening....
Wendy