Dear Reva,

One thing we have found to be helpful to avoid frowardness (seeking our own way instead of His Way) is to pray telling Him what we would like to do but then--as Yeshua did in the Garden of Gethsemane--pray "Not my will but Thine!!" 

When we do this with the whole heart He then will let us in on His Will, usually by, in prayer time, letting us hear the Scripture that clearly shows His will.  It has taken years of practice and help from other believers to understand that removal of selfishness is crucial!!

Shalom,

Betty W.