I can't fully answer your question as to whether Stacy is still saved,
but I have one comment, on her "living together" without marriage for
those years, and having two children.

It's been my observation that many who are legally married are not
living in the Lord's will at all.  A few who have eschewed legal
marriage seem to be living in His will, and I have to assume that they
have a non-legal but spiritual marriage.  I am not saying this to
condone not getting legally married, not at all.

Some of those living in "sin" may be people whose previous marriages
left them with trust funds or pensions that they would lose if they
remarry.  Since Stacy is only 34, and has not been previously married,
that wouldn't apply in her case.

Some simply hate churches and government institutions, which they think
are evil, and they therefore don't want to have a legal marriage.  Some
are very fearful of the consequences of divorce, so would rather avoid
marriage in case they divorce.  This is not spiritually sound,
"Planning" for divorce, but some at least are trying to have a good
relationship without the "piece of paper".

I have been legally married for nearly forty years, so I am not
referring to my own situation in what I said.  I do know that if I had
NOT legally married, I would probably have inherited money from my
father, who feared that if I married Irv my father's money might go to
Irv's children, which he did not want.  He wanted only my son to
inherit.  I could sure use that money now, but I am having faith that
God will provide.

The law has in many cases made relationships harder than they should
be.  And in the past, legal marriage has sometimes been used to
oppress.  One type of case is where men married women to get their
land; this happened frequently, one might say regularly, in one of my
ancestral lines, the Maxwells, who very often married cousins to get
their land, and then divorced later after the heirs were born;  I can
think of no worse use of legal marriage than this.
I studied it fairly thoroughly, and this is not a made-up case.  It is
the shocking truth.  It is a true instance of "oppression of women."
This also occurred in my ancestral line named Leslie, during the middle
ages, and I am not making that up either.  I can find more info on that
period than I can about any recent ancestors.

Legal marriage can pose many problems which are not even spiritual in
nature, and the law has sometimes made spiritual hurdles higher than
they otherwise would be.  Adversary law is the rule in divorces,
although not in every one.  Too bad.  A shocking abrogation of love.