1 Cor 10:31 (23 June 2009)
"Heather:  welcome to my world!"


Heather, I am sorry for the loss of your friend!   (not by death, but by HER choice)  Your post:  http://www.fivedoves.com/letters/june2009/heatherb622.htm
 
I want you to know that you are not alone in this, that I, too, have experienced this kind of separating from friends over the past few months as well!  ~ one, who I thought was going to be my very, very best friend ~ we had SOO much in common!  I just loved her!   Let me make it clear she was NOT an "O" supporter -- but for "whatever reason" ~ she just wanted the friendship to die on the vine.  And because I enjoyed her so much & thought the world of her, I grieved     .....DEEPLY!!
 
Whereas once we would swap secrets like giddy school girls ~ now, she won't even as much as acknowledge my wave when we pass on the street!   Instead, she mutters something out of the side of her mouth & looks away!   :(
 
Anyway, after counseling with some other friends ~ I've decided to just let it all drop for now.  If she's going to treat me vile & hateful at times when we just HAVE to see each other -- for instance, run smack on to each other inside the store or something.....
 
then later on, I will send her a little card saying very simply:  "It appears I have done something to offend you ~ and if so, I ask that you please accept my apology."
 
THEN.... just let it go at that!
 
For whatever reason, she didn't think the friendship important enough to keep it going....  and I find that very sad & hurtful.... but little by little, I'll bounce back.  I ordered myself a book (hasn't come in yet) called, "What did I do?" ~ the story of how women won't tell you when the friendship is over......  maybe it'll help some.....??
 
Believe me, I had considered many times & so often gave her the benefit of the doubt in thinking about  the depression that she deals with -- the problems with her extended family, etc. etc. but yet, none of this stands in her way to have relationships with other people.... so it's just with me.....  Let's see, I really don't mean to wear a halo here.... but Jeepers!!   I've done countless favors for her over the years.  {there also comes into play here:  "well, look at all I've done for her!!"....}   After I mentally added up all the gifts bestowed & favors performed over the years.... I thought.....
 wow..... I must be **QUITE THE SCOUNDREL**, right!!??   {insert little EVIL devilish icon here!!   GRRRR!!!}
 
hahha -- I can see why she dislikes me so much!    ;)   *kidding!*   Truthfully, I tried my best to be the kind of friend to her that I would want for myself.  She did not reciprocate ..... & now -- again, "for whatever reason",  just loathes me.
 
But you know what -- we are sooo very close to the Tribulation hour, that I believe the way she's treated me is but a foreshadowing of it!!  Because during the Trib, people will not be able to trust ANYONE!! ~ not even their mate, or child or mother, father, etc. etc. etc. ~ certainly not their best friends or neighbors!!   Micah 7:5   Do not trust in a friend; Do not put your confidence in a companion; Guard the doors of your mouth From her who lies in your bosom.   {sure enough .... many times, the Holy Spirit nudged me to not be giving *too much info* to this person.... but did I LISTEN??!!  So obviously God could see into the future, and maybe was trying to get my attention -- to stop me.  Maybe I wouldn't have been hurt so much that way...}
 
Much harder to get over b/c she lives pretty dadgum close & we're bound to run into one another..... but God is my helper!!   I'll take it one day at a time & DO MY BEST to not obsess!!   I'll admit, often hard to do, because my hurt has run so deeply....
 
Heather, people are showing their T R U E   C O L O R S  right now!!
 
As Christians, we now have the opportunity to flex our Jesus-loving muscles & instead of focusing on our hurts, we instead have the opportunity & responsibility to pray for the blessing of these people who -- for whatever reason -- have turned on us.
 
Matt 5: 44   But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,
 
"Lord Jesus, the love of people down here has turned bitterly COLD ..... brrr!!!!  {shiver-shiver!!}    How we long to see Your Face, to spend forever basking in the warmth of YOUR love!!   Even so, COME LORD JESUS!!"
 
And God's people said....????!!!       :)
 
Reva
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