What an ordeal you are experiencing! http://www.fivedoves.com/letters/july2018/pattyh722.htm We are so sorry you’re having to endure this!
I’m a natural health “nut” myself (as far as it will take a person, full well acknowledging that sometimes a person does need a Dr. or medication.) But just wondering if you’ve thought to hit a search engine & look for any natural ways that might be help?
As far as the incontinence, tried passing this info on to a friend, but alas, she was old & had trust in the medical establishment ….. so she would not listen. I rather expect many of the prescriptions she was on led to incontinence (e.g. blood pressure meds possibly ~ ? ~ …) ….. but also my friend absolutely LOVED her coffee!! “Full throttle”, not even decaff…. It was the way she was raised, so “I get it”. BUT…. I’m just saying that caffeine can certainly lead to incontinence!! Ie. Iced tea works quicker on me than anything!! I almost can’t make it in time, so to say I’ve DRASTICALLY cut down on tea is the understatement of the year! At any rate, just something to think about.
Praying for you in the meantime.