Steve,
I have seen many convicting items through the years regarding non-submission, Jezebel, etc...  I'm not sure of my husband's salvation status, but I can say for sure that he is not serving the Lord routinely.  I have stood convicted many times of acting as Jezebel.  It is sincerely not my desire to drive my husband away from the Lord, but to draw him TO the Lord.  I often open my mouth like Jezebel before I even know  what I am saying.  I know that this is a sure sign of a stronghold.  (when you continually go down a road almost against your will).  So, I went in my prayer closet (many times) to renounce Jezebel and repent.  I just could not get to the bottom of why she thought she had permission to walk on me.  Through a series of dreams/and visions, God revealed to me that when I was very young, I suffered a brutal act by a neighbor man.  The same night I had the initial dream, God woke me like a bolt of lightening with the word Vashti.  I immediately grabbed my bible and found in Esther 1:17 For this deed of the queen shall come abroad unto all women so that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes, when it shall be reported the King Ahasuerus commanded Vashti the queen to be brought in before him, but she came not.   Based on this verse I realized that through this heinous act of my neighbor, I picked up a Vashti spirit.  Vashti was a defiant wife who refused her husband outright.  Jezebel, when she heard of her husband's sadness, wrote a letter to get him the vineyard that he was coveting. To me, Vashti is the more defiant wife and Jezebel was more an over-bearing evil co-hort.  I am still disentangeling myself from Vashti, Jezebel and Venus (I believe they were all working in tandem in my life), but I know that I will overcome, because my Jesus will complete the good work that he has started!  I hope this helps someone else.  

Sincerely,
Deborah W.