First let me say that the Lord warned us about marrying an unsaved person when He said: " Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" [2Corinthians 6:14. I might add that this not only applies to marriage but applies to business partners and relationships.
But many who have not had the privilege of a Christian upbringing, or were brought up in a Christian home but were not taught this precept, have entered relationships that God specifically warns us about here.
So where are you now? And what do you do?
Well, first of all you need to keep your commitments, all of them! For He that warned you about making these unholy relationships, also said you are not to bear false witness. If you leave your unsaved spouse then you have made yourself a liar because you made a vow before God, and you will be breaking the vow to God and your spouse, and you will be a covenant breaker and a liar.
This is not the moving of the Holy Spirit, but satan working to destroy your testimony. God knew that no matter how sweet the person, that satan would use that person as a weapon to tear down your faith, and pressure you into breaking your vows and to further his agenda by making you a liar.
But God also foresaw this trick of the heart, this scheme of satan and reveals in scripture what your response should be. Unfortunately many people in the Christian community, have not only fallen into this trap, but have not responded well, after they made this big and it is a BIG mistake.
1Corinthians 7:12-13 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
So Paul is saying that by your testimony your actions might just bring your spouse to Christ. Let me say this will not happen if you consider them, and treat them, as the enemy. Remember, satan is using them to get to you. You need to recognize this and be in tune with the Holy Spirit so that the Holy Spirit will draw them to Christ. You cannot push someone toward you, only away.
John 6:44 No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him ... By your trusting in the Lord to deal with principalities and powers in the high places, you do exactly what God wants you to do.
Will they trust the Lord? Maybe, maybe not, but what God wants you to do is clear.
So what if: 1Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. If the spouse commits adultry they have departed, or if the get up and move out they have departed. And if they depart you can divorce and remarry another.
The images I'm getting from reading some other posts are that the spouses are being treated like the enemy .... THEY ARE NOT! They are just pawns in satan's game.
I also get the image that some are so into the end-times teaching, and looking for the Lord, that you are shoving it down your spouses throat ... This is not good, and is not of God. If you continue to do so, and the unbelieving depart, because you drove them away because of your overzealousness .... I seriously doubt that God will blame the spouse, I know I wouldn't.
A little perspective. I know what you're going to say to me after my next comment, you'll say you can hear your Grandma in your head.
Comment: You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Your Grandma may not be the brightest brain on the block, but I think she's got this one right, and you ought to give her saying great consideration. What many of you have been doing is obviously NOT working.
Perhaps, a second look might be in order. You all praise the dedication and sacrifice of Missionaries in the field, and in your heart empathize with them. And yet in your own home a battle of the Spirits is taking place and you are being a hindrance instead of a Missionary. Don't go out to spread the gospel to others before you take care of God's business at home.
While you're in the field you don't sit on a person and force feed them the Gospel, because it doesn't work out there. Well, it doesn't work at home either. A little honey for the honey would make for peace at home and will draw your spouse to the Lord, not DRAG them.
Remember another thing your Grandma said for which you never gave her credit ..... ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.