I think you should abide by your wife's wishes for now. The bible tells the wife to submit to her husband and her actions will bring about a change in the husband. It could be that this would work for your wife as well. To not respect her wishes will lead to a path of destruction in your family. It is important this not happen. I think it best that you keep your wife in your prayers and give her the language of love that she needs. It is not like she is saying not to believe in Jesus. 1 CORINTHIANS 13
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not CHARITY, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
I am an old woman of 64 and I've seen a lot of marriages fall apart because the people are stubborn in thinking that because they are right it makes it okay. Your wife is not in the same place as you spiritually. You must pray for her but to insist she listen to you is like tearing the petals off of a rose. Let God open her knowledge in his own gentle way. Homeschool Mom