I've often wondered how Christian guys felt about
the concept of being the Bride of Christ... Maybe some of you men can
Many years ago I was pining for a girl that loved someone else and
the pain was unbearable. In a moment of great anguish I asked God
rhetorically, "Lord, why did you ever make us male and female because
this hurts so much?" He surprised me by answering with an answer that
was beyond all expectation.
He reminded me of when Adam was yet alone without Eve and God
brought all the animals to Adam to see what Adam would call them; yet
among them was none suitable for a mate for Adam. He asked me what I
thought all that meant and I surely did not know. In fact I had never
even thought about it before and how strange it seemed now to even
think that either Adam or God could think for a moment that there COULD
or WOULD be a suitable mate for Adam found among the animal species...
When I had pondered for a while and could come to no conclusions,
then God finally told me what that meant. He said it was to demonstrate
for us all what it was like for Him, God, before He had yet made
mankind. God told me that the animals were to Adam what the angels were
like to God before man was created. The picture was that God actually
looked among all the angel hosts to see if there was any that would be
suitable as a mate for Himself, but he found none suitable; and so He
came to the conclusion that it was not good for Himself as God to be
alone so He would make a mate for Himself.
The mate that He would make for himself, in His own image would
have to understand His own feelings toward her so He in His wisdom
created this being male and female in one being and also created the
animals first and brought them to this being. God wanted Adam to feel
what He was feeling; the aloneness and desire for a suitable mate. It
was necessary therefore to make Adam male and female and to also give
him the capacity for offspring so that we as creatures could understand
the longing of love for that which has come forth of our own loins.
(God brought this up to Jonah at the gourd when Jonah had more
compassion for it than he had for the people of Nineveh, remember?)
That day, God allowed me to see and understand the great love that
He has for us and to view it through the love I had for this girl who
did not even know me and had not responded to my wooing her and longing
to be with her. But instead she had chosen a guy who treated her very
badly and it broke my heart to watch this. But there was nothing I
could do about it so I complained to God and His answer was to show me
how He also hurts for mankind who has chosen this evil world over Him.
When God separated Adam's rib and made Eve and brought her to Adam
He was demonstrating how we are brought out of God's own life and yet
are separate enough to go our own way if we choose to. But for doing so
(sin) comes death. Well, without going into all the depth of all that,
let me just get to Lydia's question...
It was in the midst of this understanding of all God was sharing
with me in this that I began to notice the way that we were talking
together and I was so in love with Him. He was "flirting" with me and I
was flirting back but to my complete amazement, I noticed rather
startlingly that I was in the role of the "female" in the relationship.
He was extremely "Male" to me and there was no confusing my role at
all; I was the female. But I was not uncomfortable with that in the
least. I can only feebly try and explain it that it is more like rank
than like a sexual thing. As a high ranking officer in the military has
no trouble recognizing when a higher ranking officer enters the room
and naturally shows proper respect. There is no uncomfortableness at
all because the ranks are secure and all recognize the lines where they
are drawn. I can very easily submit myself to Him because I understand
His love for me and where I fit into His plans. My "femaleness" is more
about position and "rank" as it were, than about being overly feminine
to His maleness, and yet strangely, there was a hint of that too. It's
as though my own maleness fades enough to allow for His to overtake me
and I become His bride and forget about my own earthly relationships
and am transformed into His bride and earthly things are forgotten. The
earthly is for the purpose of teaching of the heavenly. This is why
Jesus scolded Nicodemus when He said how can you understand the
heavenly if you cannot properly grasp the earthly?
I hope this helps to answer your question.