Dear Mariel, Lydia and Paul
Mariel and Lydia, thank you so much for your comments and support.
Mariel, I think we are all born with a congenital “defect”. There is a difference from what we call “sin” and “sins” in general. Romans 5: 12. "By one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned."
“Sin” is that which at the fall of Adam gained an entrance into the world. Just as the poison of a snake, once injected into a man's body, will run through his whole system doing its deadly work, so sin - the virus of that old serpent the devil - has permeated man's moral being to his ruin. The result of this is “all have sinned”. “Sins”, of thought, word, or act, whether of omission or commission, are chargeable to each of us. “Sin” then, seems to be the root principle, “sins” the shameful fruits that spring therefrom.
Paul, from your post I have the impression that you misunderstood what I wrote. What I meant (in the paragraph you commented) is that if someone has no attraction to people of the opposite sex, expecting them to “become” heterosexual is something unrealistic and even imprudent in some cases. When someone is homosexual, it seems to me that the idea of getting married to someone of the opposite sex is a violence (and will probably be a disaster for both in the ‘heterosexual’ couple after the forced “conversion”). So in this case, if one can’t change their inner homosexual desire/inclination, they can choose to live in chastity. This is what I really mean. I think that even if one can’t change their own sexual inclinations, one can abstain from sexual immorality and God will honor that.
No one has ever died from sexual abstinence. It does not lead to any disease or even any psychiatric disorders. Sexual desires are distinct from life-sustaining needs, such as for food, water, and sleep.
This reference is a honest testimony of a former homosexual who is a Christian: http://www.christiananswers.net/q-cross/cross-gaychange.html
Blessings and Maranatha!