You see, it was not our best
weekend..... my DH is just OBSESSED to sit in the recliner, laptop on lap,
working on band & business stuff... this is what he does EVERY SINGLE
EVENING from the time he gets home till the time he goes to bed & generally
all weekend long, too. A person would not KNOW how obsessed he is -- unless to
be here in person actually observing it! It's to the point that if he can't
find a way to curb himself.... then we may be needing counseling. I threw a
royal fit Sat. evening, & very REGRETFULLY said some of the worst stuff I've
ever said to him..... big time sigh!! :( Fortunately, I apologized
right away ~ still though, that never removes the sting of saying the words to
start with..... :(
I love, love, love him! He's
such a good person, a gentle soul.... but this obsession is just driving me over
the edge!! And it's not just cuz he works for another co. now -- he's been
like this for the past 10 years -- ever since he even HAD a laptop!! This has
been the source of our chief fights over the years.
Why can't some guys ever take the
initiative to do ANYTHING around the house on their own?? He claims the laptop
is cuz "he doesn't want to just sit & DO NOTHING"...... well, DUH!! I'm
sorry he thinks I'm THAT boring... but I never REQUESTED we just sit & do
nothing!! But rather, get butt up OFF that recliner & paint the house!! ~
or weedeat, or work on putting rock garden together or clean the garage.... We
do plenty of fun, entertainment things, can't he do a lil' physical work
around here once in a while?
All he does is complain about
HAVING to do things around the house. And I certainly can't do it all!! It's
like he loves home ownership, but hates the responsibility that comes with
keeping it up.....
We've talked about getting a
different house: all brick..... but guess what? Even so, still would
have things that need to be tended to!! ~ always will be!!
This routine is SO standard!!
He'll be INCREDIBLY OBSESSED w/his computer & work..... and we sail along
for a while ..... then finally I BLOW UP.... so, he'll pull back for a couple of
days.... but after that, he'll be right back to it!! It's endless!! It never
stops!! GRRRR!!!!!
Told him I guess I'll get my own
TV & keep it in bedroom & go in there & stay when he's constantly on
the computer..... this is 1 of the reasons we eat out so often, cuz if I labor
in kitchen & cook for 2 hours & then clean up for another hour, all he
does.... even when we're eating .... is stay on the dadgum computer!! RUDE!!
Forget trying to have a conversation w/your wife!! At least, when we eat out,
we talk then....
I read in a book last night that
being a workaholic can be about as bad as an alcoholic..... I believe
it!!
Last time on vacation, I saw a
lil' plaque I wanted.... said, "Home: a haven for your heart".... that is SO
MUCH what I WANT home to be.... but it's far, far from it!! Probably the other
evening, I woulda' thrown it at him.... he just wants life to be an agitating
24/7 work, work, work, work.......
Advice & kind words welcome.... prayer even MORE
welcome!! :)
I know, know, know some have problems SOOO much worse,
& I full well acknowledge this & pray for all cares & concerns.
And I hope that we can get to be a functioning
family..... I want far less distractions, but am willing for love's sake, to
make compromise..... At any rate, thank you for prayers to the
Throne!
Reva