Dear Sis in Christ,
 
How well I understand.  Many years ago, I took a stand for the Lord and opted not to move in with a family member who was using drugs and selling it as well.  My parents become enraged when I told them I couldn't live with this family member.  I felt I couldn't discuss the major reasons why as they were in complete denial of the drugs.  My mother turned to my father and said in front of me, " I can't even stand to look at her. Let's get out of here." Immediately they left.
 
When I first came to salvation in Christ, my parents told me I wasn't allowed to discuss my faith, read my Bible or pray at home.  They thought I was delusional.
 
Years later, when my father didn't show up for dinner I was treating him to, I learned from my brother that I was disowned and that is why he didn't come.
 
Peggy, I understand so well the hurt.  I had forgiven both my parents, led my mother to the Lord before she died and forgave my father, not only because of being disowned, but forgave his sexual abuse of me.
 
The Lord gave me Romans chapter 5, for when we were enemies, Christ died for us.  My family was my enemy, yet the best thing I could do was give up my life into the grace of God, so that I could love each freely without any longer the anger.
 
When my father heard from me that he was forgiven, he cried and cried.  He did take ownership but feels the guilt so deeply that he doesn't see how God could ever forgive him.  I continue to speak of Christ and His love to him often.  And, you know, we have developed a pretty special friendship.
 
Your mother is creating a prison for herself.  You are the freed one.  Though the pain be so very deep, I pray that God's grace overflow you and fill you so that the arrows of Satan not hurt your spirit through your mother.
 
You are deeply loved of the Lord and of us all, your Dove family.
 
Patty Hayes