Wendy (13 Apr 2011)
"Reply to Linda Arn"


Hello Linda and Doves,
 
I too am beset with various problems, including marriage and family.  It is all so overwhelming isn't it?  After almost 18 years of marriage my husband decides he wants to be single.  He has not left yet and we have not made official plans to divorce or anything and he says he loves me with all of his heart (huh????????), but I have to live with this knowledge that he is staying in the marriage so as not to hurt me.  Basically, he is willing to stay because he knows that I would be devastated, but in his heart he does not want to be married.  There is also the intimacy issue (or lack thereof)....I am at a loss.  I find myself fuming inside most days and I do not know how to react?  I am not sure what God would have me do.  Do I stay and pray and trust God to turn things around, or do I give my husband peace of mind and set him free?  I know what the Bible teaches about divorce, but the pain I feel daily is at times too much to bear.  I am 39 years old, no children and do not have any time of intimacy with my husband for months at a time.  This feeling of rejection and sorrow most days causes me to behave in a non-Christ-like manner and with His return being so close, I despair because of this.
 
I would appreciate any advice from any Dove - I could really use some right about now.
 
If anyone would like to contact me, I can be reached at my personal email address at:  wendy_ledo@yahoo.ca
 
Thanks for listening....
 
Wendy