When I read the last paragraph where you wrote:
"A young black lady in her undergarments (like you see some people wearing a bikini at the beach) staring into what I think was a mirror. I was like oh Lord why am I seeing this? Because I could see her flesh and her hair was not combed. In an instant the scene changed. She was in an all white room sitting at a small table that had a white flowing table cloth. Behind her was a window with white curtains and the walls were white. She was sitting there in white looking as if she was waiting for a wedding. She had a white wedding outfit on (not sure if it was a gown or a suit) but I do now that she also had a beautiful white hat that had pearls in it. She sat at the table with her head in her hands, knowingly waiting for the wedding. I got the impression that she had made herself ready."
Immediately the scripture came to mind in Song of Solomon 1:5-6, which says:
"I am black but lovely,
O daughters of Jerusalem,
Like the tents of Kedar,
Like the curtains of Solomon.
"Do not stare at me because I am dark,
For the sun has burned me.
My mother's sons were angry with me;
They made me caretaker of the vineyards,
But I have not taken care of my own vineyard."
This verse has the Beloved referring to her appearance as black and then credits the darkness with being seared as if to blackness by the sun. Then notice where the unkempt reference can be found in the words, "But I have not taken care of my own vineyard". There is also a reference to being disrobed in Song of Solomon 5:3, which could represent how you initially saw her. Something to pray over for more understanding.